Mundane Monday 22

Between the HR induction meetings, piles of email and papers waiting for me to sort through the week and staring out the window onto this gloomy raining morning/afternoon, it is only normal that I took to the internet to find some quotes to help me think about anything other than work.

There are as you may have guessed (from my shameless bragging) two main things in my life right now. My marriage and my Work.

The work side, well, I think I’ve got it covered, I know who to ask when I don’t know something and I know what goals I have to achieve by the end of my training. I know how to push myself and I definitely know the gaps in my knowledge and how to fill them.

My marriage? Mergh not so much.. There are no goals, no plans, sometimes I’m not exactly sure whether to communicate thoughts and whether the Husband is the best person to direct them to. Isn’t that awful?

For the mean time I’ve taken to mind maps and reading up on articles because I need a sense of direction in every area of my life. Communication keeps coming up everywhere but I think it’s also equally important to choose someone that you are going to spend the rest of your life with you understands your communication.

And that’s where Rumi comes in:

“Be with those who support your being”
                                               Rumi, Persian Poet.

I think this quote should be plastered around a lot more next to marriage articles who all explain that “communication is the key” sure I can communicate myself to a goat, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to understand my being.

Surely one’s time is better spent communicating yourself to those who know you, who understand the way you think, the way you talk, who are less likely to mistake you sarcasm for fact.

And that’s when I start to feel a little better, that although I don’t have a marriage plan (yet) and no clear direction (yet) I am with someone who just gets me. Who understands what I mean when I’m quiet and who hears in between the words when I’m talking.

If you are smiling right know thinking of that person who knows your bring pretty well, consider yourself lucky. That right there is better than any life plan, well in my opinion.

Happy Monday!